How to Get a Date for Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is just 3 days away. And if I’m not mistaken, you’re sitting there alone at your computer reading this, with no one in a thousand-mile radius willing to touch you. Maybe you do have a date for Valentine’s Day — and if so, then congratulations. But this post is aimed at those who don’t. And that probably means you, bucko!

No one is more qualified to address this topic than me, so let’s get into it.

The first step to getting a date for Valentine’s Day is simply to figure out why you want one in the first place. Understanding your intentions is key. They might appear obvious at first, but really think about them. What do you truly want out of a relationship? Do you want affection? Do you want validation and respect from your friends? Do you want to impress your Dad so that he’ll finally like you? Do you want to finally feel like worth loving again? Do you just feel an unexplainable urge to?

It’s important to understand your intentions so that you don’t get derailed by shallow or unhealthy ones. Clarify your intentions to ensure that they are healthy, and then you can proceed with clarity and direction.

After you’ve sorted out your intentions, you probably think that the next step is to learn how to spit game. But you’re wrong. Because here’s the thing about game: it doesn’t work.

Sure, you might manage to “trick” someone into dating you with slick pickup lines and carefully rehearsed deliveries and weird eye contact techniques and all that other creepy stuff. But only the dumb people are going to fall for your tricks, and do you really want to date dumb people? Also, game can’t continue forever. At a certain point, the person is going to see the real you, and the earlier that happens the better.

Game can teach you how to appear attractive. But what matters isn’t appearing attractive. What matters is being attractive. So, with that in mind, forget game. People of the opposite sex are human beings too. So just talk to them like normal human beings.

For some reason people think that dating is complicated. But it’s not. Dating is actually incredibly simple. Just express who you are as clearly as you can, warts and all. If the other person likes you, then they like you. And if the other person doesn’t like you, then they don’t like you.

That’s it. No game. Just be yourself. If who you are is worth loving, then being yourself will be attractive. And if who you are isn’t worth loving, then you should forget about dating and work on yourself.